Domestic violence affects many lives, creating a cycle of fear and control that can be hard to break. If you are in an abusive relationship, planning your exit with care is crucial for your safety and well-being. Here are steps to take before leaving.
Have a safety plan
Identify safe places you can go, like a friend’s house or a local shelter. Keep a list of emergency contacts and pack a bag with essentials such as clothes, medication, and important documents. Make sure this bag is easy to access but hidden from your abuser.
Document the abuse
While it may be painful, it is crucial to keep a detailed record of the abuse. Hospital visits with exact timestamps, descriptions, photographs, and other evidence can be invaluable. This documentation will be necessary if you need to pursue legal action later.
Secure your finances
Without enough resources, moving around or planning for the future is difficult. Open a separate bank account in your name and start saving money discreetly. You might also consider asking a trusted friend or family member to hold some cash for you. Financial independence will be vital once you leave.
Reach out to people you trust
Confide in trusted friends, family, or a counselor. Contact local domestic violence organizations for resources and advice. These organizations can offer emotional support and practical help, such as housing and legal advice.
Getting legal protection
Consider obtaining a protection or restraining order if you are going through a divorce. In Colorado, you can request a Temporary Protection Order (TPO) to keep your abuser away from you and your children. This legal measure can offer additional security and peace of mind as you navigate this challenging transition.
Prioritize your safety and take these steps to break free from the cycle of abuse. Support and resources are available to help you through this tough time.