Domestic violence often doesn’t begin before marriage. Those with violent tendencies often hide their true nature until they believe their partners cannot leave them. They may even wait until there are children in the family and their spouse has become financially dependent on them.
Spouses who fear for their safety because they never know when they might face physical violence and verbal abuse might need to strategize carefully when exiting an unsafe marriage. They may benefit from consulting with an attorney and possibly taking legal action before they initiate the divorce process to protect themselves from continued abuse and stalking.
Why is leaving an abuser so dangerous?
Perpetrators of domestic violence often enjoy the feeling of control over others. They may feel a sense of ownership over their spouses that divorce threatens. Simply leaving a violent spouse does not end violence.
Many people face an increased risk of assault and even homicide for the two years immediately following their exit from the relationship. Spouses trying to leave a domestic abuser may need help preparing.
Documenting the abuse and then seeking a protection order can create consequences for continued abuse and harassment. They can call the police if their spouse threatens them or shows up at their home. Frightened spouses may also need help petitioning the courts to process the divorce in a manner that preserves their privacy if they have moved to an undisclosed location for their safety.
Attorneys who are familiar with the advocacy that domestic violence survivors require can play a critical role in helping people leave unsafe situations. Divorcing a domestic abuser can be a dangerous process, but the right help reduces the risk involved.