Whenever a celebrity or someone else in the public eye accuses their spouse of abuse and leaves their marriage, it’s a common response for people to ask why the abuse victim didn’t leave sooner. These people are often honestly confused — having never been through this on their own — and they don’t know why anyone would stay married to an abusive spouse.
What we need to focus on at times like these is the fact that it’s actually very hard for people to leave an abusive partner. It is not simple, there are no easy answers and it’s completely understandable that the route out of an abusive marriage is different for everyone.
What makes it so difficult to flee an abusive marriage?
There are many reasons that this happens, and they’re different for everyone. That said, one common reason is that the abused spouse may lack funds or other resources. It’s easy for an outsider to say “just go live somewhere else,” but that’s not practical with a spouse who controls all monetary resources. If you have no money and no income, where are you supposed to go? Many people feel trapped.
There are also issues with fear of escalating behavior. Abuse may seem like something that can be endured when compared to the potential violence if the partner finds out the other person is planning to leave. If children are in the picture, this just gets even more complicated.
What are your options when you want to leave an abusive spouse?
If you’re experiencing abuse, you need to know what legal options you have. Leaving may mean more than just getting a divorce. Learn what steps you can take to protect yourself and your children as you move forward in your life.